Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart Paperback – June 12, 2006

I first read "Why Men Love Bitches" before reading this, on the suggestion from a friend who swore by it (she followed it throughout the dating process with her now-husband, who, coincidentally, is a gorgeous man). On such a great recommendation, I had to at least read it and check it out. I won't go into great lengths about it, since this is a review of the second book, but it is an incredible read that will seriously change any nice girl's life!!Having loved the first book so much, and being that I do hope to get married someday soon, I went ahead and ordered the second book, this one. It was at least as good as Argov's first book, if not even better. First off, I need to address the basic idea behind this book (as well as her first), because I think there are probably a lot of women out there who will be put off by the title and dismiss it just for that. These books are not really about being what people typically think of for the term she uses - it is not about being mean, rude, spiteful, bitter, or any of those things. What it really is about is just loving yourself, maintaining your dignity and pride, living and loving your life, and how doing all of that will earn the respect of any man (as the author says and I do agree with, no man is going to marry a woman he does not respect). The book is brilliant because most women (myself included, in the past) believe that once they meet a man they are into, they need to put their lives on hold and make him their number one priority to keep him around. Ms. Argov advises the exact opposite, to keep living your life in a way that makes you happy, and that men will actually respond to that. That is basically what this book (as well as her first) is about - putting yourself first. Women are also made to believe that mindblowing sex (and the sooner, the better) is also important to "snagging" a man. Again, completely wrong, and this book instead stresses the importance of appealing to his sexual imagination, which basically means him being sexually attracted to you, but also not getting everything off the bat and instead "giving" yourself sexually in increments, so that you appeal to his imagination and he gets to enjoy the chase. I have to say though, even though the principles behind her advice are all great, I will not lie - some of the things you have to do, they're hard!! It's hard to not obsess when the man you like doesn't call for a few days (and he most likely will test you this way, because that's what they do - they test you to see how you'll react). It's hard not to ask why you haven't heard from him, where he was last night, is he seeing anyone else, etc. etc. It's also hard to not sleep with a man too soon that you are really attracted to (especially when he is trying to get you to). But if you can force yourself to stay disciplined, it WILL work.Now I am going to provide a personal testimonial. Not only do I know someone who has used Ms. Argov's advice to now be married to the man of her dreams, but I am currently dating someone that I have been using the exact principles advised in Argov's two books. I have only been out with this man six times now - still kind of early to know how it will end, so I can't tell you that, but I can tell you how well it's gone so far. Last night (my most recent date with this man) I went out with him and do you know what happened? I get to his place (it was my turn to go to him, I do NOT just go to him every time like I might have before discovering these books), and he had prepared a candlelight dinner for me. Prior to my arrival, he called to find out what kind of food I like/ don't like, he wouldn't let me help prepare it or clean up afterward. Sixth date, mind you - I know women who are married who have never had their husband prepare them any kind of dinner, let alone a romantic one. He also told me (before I left) how unbelievably attracted to me he was (not the first time either - I as well as others who have read this book know that part of that is because of me being somewhat "unattainable"), how he always has a good time with me, and how interesting he thinks I am - he said most women, he likes the kissing and all of that but after that he usually doesn't want them around, but that with me, he actually likes my company. My response? I just smiled, and said "Thanks. You know I always have fun spending time with you too" (others who have read these books know why "fun" is such an important word). I mean, the guy is practically gushing all over me - and not while trying to grope or score with me while saying all this (very critical fact). It's important to note that this man is sexy, successful, and could probably have just about any woman he wants. And I truly believe it is because I have been following the basic principles Argov presents in her book. I can also tell you in the past, when I did NOT do what is suggested in this book, things did not exactly work out. I was always that girl who tried too hard but got taken advantage of, who gave my heart and didn't get much back, who basically did all the work if it did get to the point of a relationship, or many times, before things got too serious, was told, "There's just something missing", etc. etc. So I am a total believer in Sherry Argov's books.I know I've written a lot but I want to make it clear to all of you how truly amazing this (and her other book) really is. This really is what to read to "convince the man of your dreams that you are the woman of his dreams". It works, it works, it works, it works, it works! I can't stress it enough. I hope every marriage-minded woman out there goes and reads this book because it truly changed my life. If there were a dating religion out there to follow, this would be the dating bible!!!

Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself.Her previous book -Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and do not take for granted.Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice to keep the relation-ship from hitting the rocks, and to secure the glittering rock.What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.The BEST advice in the book is how to initiate the conversation that will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. It would certainly work without alienating. It would work on me, and could certainly work for you. Ideally, it would be best to have a few different approaches to pick from.I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at [...].So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.I trust you find this helpful.

Interesting book. It's really about self respect and not being "easy" when it comes to men. Holding yourself to a higher standard...definitely recommend this book to any young woman out there who values herself and wants to know how to really hold a man's attention and make them value you.